Author Archives: Brian


Escalate-Her [Getting Numbers]

It is very possible to escalate too fast, or try to do too much at once. One obvious example is when a guy goes up to a woman and tries to get her number within like three seconds. In this case, you’re actually rewarding her just because she looks cute.   You’re willing to give…

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Merge inner-outer game

(Positive feedback loops). ** 10 – I was doing weird shit – tapping, tapes, affirmations, then I’d try to recite lines, undermining my desired beliefs and being good enough There is talk in pickup and seduction about merging inner and outer game. And the fact of the matter is there’s no real distinction. There’s no…

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True Purpose

Everyone’s purpose is to be their true selves. Your purpose is to be you all the way. Now what does that mean? Well, our minds best understand things when we break them up so we can focus in on our weak points. Your purpose is to be yourself all the way. What makes that up?…

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Appreciate The Precedence

Have you ever heard a woman say that they like a man who knows what he wants? This is really the foundation of confidence. It’s not expecting a good result and thinking you’re the man. It’s about knowing who you are what your rules for life are.   This indirectly gives her a guide as…

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Elite, Permanent, Fun

(I:PA*CE eliminates anxiety + promotes the zone) Eliminates anxiety – you have more fun and don’t have a panic attack. ** 9 -asking girl to prom, holloween store, chicago streets I:PA*CE eliminates anxiety. I:PA*CE leads to positive interactions. You have fun with people. Think about times when you were talking with your best friend. You…

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Don’t Identify, Explore

Women are an opportunity for you to have new experiences and to experience courage. They’re also a way to help you habitualize a helping mindset. The goal is to learn about a woman rather than trying to figure women out. That’s why I say awareness is all about exploring rather than identifying specific unifying themes…

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Seeking: Approval

Most guys engage in approval seeking. They don’t really know what they stand for. They’re asking the woman what they should stand for. They’re trying to figure out what she wants and that’s weak. Instead, know what you want, and see if she’s aligned with that.   I’ll say to women I meet, “I just…

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Infinite variation and contextual adaptation

Is undetectable – infinite variation and contextual adaptation. ** 8 DONT HAVE TO HIDE WHAT YOU ARE LEARNING = 10 , “glass ceiling” It’s undetectable. A lot of times, when guys read lines or routines or seduction stuff (the pickup artist stuff). A big concern is that maybe this woman has heard this before. Some…

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I think of growth in terms of subtraction. Getting rid of layers. Getting rid of extra thoughts and extra stuff in your life. So growth kind of gives you the idea that you’re moving up and out and forward. But at the same time, you also want to think about subtracting stuff that doesn’t need…

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Who To Trust?

A very common thing you will hear from women is that they’ve been hurt by someone in the past. What you want to do in this situation is flip it. Who cares whether you trust me – the question is, do I trust you?   So, I’ll say, “Yeah, well, trust isn’t earned overnight. I’ve…

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