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How To Turn A Girl On – Go Beyond Dating

If you know how to turn a girl on, you can sleep with her, no matter how beautiful she is. If you don’t know how to turn a girl on, nothing you have or do will make a difference. She won’t sleep with you. Mistakes Women know how to turn men on, but men don’t know to turn women on. Most common MO is to emulate what women do by being pretty, try to be alpha, be funny, sound smart, brag, be really sweet and complimentary Basically impressing/courting, hoping she’ll give him the green light Alcohol Plus men don’t know how women think about sex – what a woman’s experience is most men, except for 1%, are actually telling women NOT to be sexual (otherwise get punished) by courting, through seduction or chivalry By trying to get sex from her, by undermining her innate sexuality, and instead using game you are telling her that you are in the frame of women=possessions, and thus her value diminishes if she fucks you Realization of my problem It took me several months to have sex with my first girlfriend, and after she dumped me, I went a long dry spell. I went on dates, spent money, tried my best to impress the woman, but it never went anywhere. Several friends of mine – not good looking guys, but reasonably cool and fun guys, had the oppositi results They would fuck women they just met without dates or spending money, or trying very hard. Struggle  I decided to fix my problem and tried a lot of things. I tried to escalate using seduction techniques, And i met a lot of women, trying tons of things. On dates, I tried to spend litle money, as I was broke, and didn’t actually want to date, I wanted sex. I managed to get a fuckbuddy that helped me increase my sexual confidence, And i started noticing that my escalation was happening faster, so it was possible to learn this I started reading a lot of books on female psychology, and started realizing that women like sex too I noticed that the more money I spent, the less likely a woman was to sleep with me the faster I got a woman to my place, the faster we’d have sex, even if she said she was “being good” – I would just keep talking and doing kino and then going in for the kiss, then not stopping Revelation I found that it wasn’t women who were afraid of sex, it was me. Often I would realize after the fact that I could have made a move, that she was open, probably horny, and it was my fear of doing the wrong thing or coming off creepy that was holding me back, on top of my lack of sexual confdidence from real experience, which was changing with the couple FBs i had I also realized that it was being sweet, chivarlous – paying for shit basically, being a gentleman and…

Dating Models

Dating Models

Most guys put models and actresses on a pedestal, as the pinnacle of achievement when it comes to dating. I have dated enough of these types of women to know that I’d actually prefer to meet normal women – teachers, nurses, etc. But if you are looking for the picturesque type of woman, straight off the cover of Cosmo, then you’ll need to know a couple things. #1 Go where they areIn New York, models and actresses tend to hang out in certain areas, and at certain clubs. Find out what clubs and bars are near talent agencies in your town, and start to frequent those places. In NYC, Chelsea is where most of the modeling agencies are. Every time I go to that part of town, I see some really amazing women. Again, my taste is more for the “around the way girl,” but if I were looking for a skinny, 6-foot-tall European looking model chick, I’d go to Chelsea. #2 Don’t be impressed – relateThe odds are actually more in your favor, the hotter a girl is. Especially with models and actresses, because of how other men treat them. They are used to men worshipping and fawning all over them, or staring creepily but not saying anything, or being really obnoxious and aggressive. If you can just treat her like a normal person, without the game or bullshit, you will seem really different. So how do you act normal? Don’t be impressed with her. Be curious about her, and as she talks about herself, relate to her experience. If she talks about the stress of acting, because she has to perform for others, talk about how working in IT can be stressful because everyone expects you to know it all, and as soon as the system has trouble, everyone blames you. (Yes, you can work in IT and date models. I’ve had tons of clients make this their reality.) #3 Focus on her personality and convey standardsI recall meeting a famous model at the airport. I told a couple of my friends, and they got really excited, telling me that I “had to sleep with her.” For them it was a trophy. But the more I talked to her, the less I liked her. Soon I decided I didn’t want to spend anymore time with her than I already had. It’s important not to compromise yourself just to sleep with a hot woman. If you have standards, and integrity (you stick to your standards), she will feel it. A lot of times, models are used to men sucking up them and letting them get away with crappy behavior. Not you. If she makes a bad joke, or acts stuck up, make fun of her, subtly challenging her to step up. I call this “appreciation-potential.” You are conveying that you could like her, if she can stop being fake and be real with you. This is POWERFUL, because no man does this with her. #4 Give experiences, not moneyDo…

Attractive Body Language

Presence A good portion of my clients are shorter than average. It’s no secret that women prefer taller men, but this does not have to stop you. I’ve taught many guys to pick up women taller than them! It all comes down to having a strong physical presence by adjusting your posture and body movement. There is a lot of advice out there about how to have confident body language, but most of it is vague, or simply wrong. Here’s what really works (and as always, this is field-tested by myself, and clients I’ve taught). Most guys move through the world accommodating everyone else. They don’t own their space, and move faster than is truly comfortable for them. Another major problem I see when guys approach women is their lack of effective eye contact. It’s rare to see a woman standing still, waiting for a man to approach her. At a bar or club, women stand in groups, flanked by friends, or blocked by the bar. During the day, women are either walking or sitting, making it difficult to walk right up to them. The problem with this is that the ideal way to approach a woman is by having her see you and lock eyes with you before you speak. In this article, I’ll teach you how to get a woman’s total attention – you become her entire world – without saying a word. There are four easy ways to make your presence felt, and get her to think, “Who is this guy???” 1. Lead with your lower body. This is something you see with very sexual guys do, as well as professional fighters (e.g. UFC/MMA guys). Use your pelvis as your guiding point. Most men lead with their chest, arms, shoulders, or head. Stand up straight, push your pelvis forward, spread your legs to shoulder length, and lead with your dick! 2. Stay unprotected by exposing your front. Imagine opening the entire front of your body, exposing your whole body to her. Keep your arms relaxed at your sides. If she wanted to punch you in the gut, or kick you in the balls, you’d be totally vulnerable. This shows incredible confidence. 3. Smile with your eyes. This may sound strange, but most guys either smile with their mouths, or simply look apprehensive. Try sending a warm, loving message from your eyes into hers, the same way your eyes would light up if you saw a cute puppy. 4. Move slow. As you approach her, take your time. You are in your own world, and you’re about to bring her in. This shows that you move on YOUR schedule, and you have no fear of rejection. Ironically, fear of rejection makes it more likely, whereas being comfortable with rejection makes it less likely. Do this by walking up to her as if you know she wants you to. No matter your size or body type, you can turn a woman on without saying a word. Of course, at…

How To Meet Girls In College

Meeting women in college I would give anything to go back in time to my college days. I missed so many opportunities because I didn’t know then what I know now. But that’s life. I’m not regretful – my life only gets better as I grow older. But looking back on college, I realize that was probably the easiest it will ever be to get laid. If you are in college, take full advantage. You are surrounded by opportunities, that you probably won’t recognize until after the fact. Let me help you out. Class Although it may seem obvious and cliche, using the commonalities you share with other students is the easiest, and thus the best way to connect with girls in college. This is what the “naturals” understand. You don’t have to be fancy or original. Just be social and friendly. Class is the reason everyone is in college, and it’s something you can use to meet girls. In class, be friendly to everyone. Make friends with as many people as you can. Talk to the people next to you. Ask them how they did on their exam, or if they understood the homework. Crack a joke about the class or professor. Just get an interaction going. Gradually build friendships over time – don’t rush in and try to get a girl’s number in the first week of class. Take your time. If you make your move too early, things could get awkward. Wait until the middle of the semester, and keep your focus on making lots of friends rather than zeroing in on one girl. Studying for a test is the easiest way to meet a girl outside of class. Usually, groups of students will meet at the library to study. Participate! It will never be this easy again. It’s a no-brainer to get some late-night pizza after a group study session, and invite a girl back to your dorm to chill and watch a movie. Dorms Which brings me to dorm life. For some guys, living in the dorms is one long orgy. The key is to not try to hit on girls, but to be social and have a good room to hang out in. A good dorm room means: A couch/futon/bed that people can kick back on. Also have some other chairs if you’re going to have a lot of people over at once. Have a decent TV, and sound system, and make sure you have a big variety of music on your computer. Although I don’t advocate underage drinking, having some drinks is always good, because let’s face – college kids like to drink. Just don’t get too crazy, and make sure your RA doesn’t catch you. Also have some wall decorations, and mellow lighting – Christmas lights are cool – green or yellow make a nice cozy glow for the room. Think cozy, comfortable, and equipped. Leave your door wide open, play music, and invite people to come by. Then just kick back…

Sexual Questions to Ask a Girl

Get personal I’m going to keep this article simple. It’s about asking personal questions to women, for a romantic intention. You see, most guys ask a series of boring-ass questions hoping that at some point, the women will just drop her panties and have sex. How many questions do you have to ask before this happens? Infinity. Here’s how you really do it. You need to ask questions that get women talking about themselves. When she does this, you can escalate (by touching her or inviting her to hang out with you) as a reward. This timing, her effort-your reward, creates the perception that you are the sexual prize she is trying to win over. This is the dynamic you need to turn a woman on and keep control in your relationship. Here’s a list of great questions to spice up your conversations and get women talking.   What would you do if?    * What if you were on a desert island and could only have one book?    * One movie?    * One friend?    * What would you do to occupy your mind until the day you died? What’s your favorite?    * What’s your favorite character trait?    * What’s your favorite food to eat?   * To eat?   * What’s your favorite part of a man’s body?   * What’s your favorite part of your body to be kissed and sucked? What do you NOT want?    * What turns you off when you meet a guy?   * What makes you distrust people?   * What do you dislike about yourself?   * What would disappoint you most I am running a discount on my comprehensive rundown of how to create a sexual spark with girls you just met, or have known for awhile… it’s called The Sexual Spark. The discount is only running for a few days. Click here to learn more about it and take advantage of the crazy discount if you had a child? What makes you smile and laugh?    * What do you want to do for income, eventually?   * What is your favorite funny TV show/movie?   * What’s your favorite joke?   * How do you remember to not take life too seriously?Which friend makes you laugh the most? Why? What makes you angry and motivated?    * What’s your biggest pet peeve?   * What’s the angriest you’ve ever been?   * Who do you hate the most?   * Have you ever felt so angry that you had to prove yourself?   * What drives you?   * What’s your passion?    * What world-crisis pisses you off enough to make you act? Think about the common theme underlying all these questions. They are all designed to get someone thinking. The good news is that women love to talk about themselves, and explore how their minds work. When you can get a woman to look inside her mind and explore her own personality, she’ll love you. The reason for this? Women are culturally conditioned to think…

How To Make A Girl Come

How to make a girl come

For a guy, having an orgasm is pretty easy, but most guys don’t know how to make a girl come because they only focus on her body, not her mind. In this article I’ll explain how to make a girl come by touching her mind and body. How to make a girl come: relaxation Once you get a girl alone and things start heating up, focus on helping her relax first. Most girls are very nervous at first. They are worried about being pretty enough, whether they are doing it right (kissing, touching, etc). A girl will also be worried about you thinking less of her if she has sex with you too fast, even though she wants to. although not recommended, here’s what Cosmo has to say There are a two parts to helping a girl relax. Relaxation is all about feeling safe; when a girl feels safe, she’ll relax. (To understand safety on a deeper level, see my article “Control, part 2: Safety.”). The two parts of safety are physical and emotional. A girl must feel physically safe with you. This means you can’t rush her or put pressure on her. You can’t touch her in a way that makes her uncomfortable. At first, I focus on touching a woman as a means of guiding and protecting her. I don’t ever “cop a feel.” Instead I put my hand on her lower back and guide her to where we are going. I pull her close to help her avoid getting bumped by passersby. When we are alone, I hold her in a way that conveys I care about her and want her to feel safe. I also ask girls, “Are you OK?” or “Are you comfortable?” or “Do you need anything?” A girl must also feel emotionally safe. She must feel like you actually like her for who she is as a person, so that she can be herself around you. Think of a time when you felt you had to walk on eggshells around someone. It’s uncomfortable. We feel good when we feel that others like us for who we really are, that we get approval when we show our authentic, flawed personalities. When a girl feels good about herself around you, she can relax. When she relaxes, her natural sexuality emerges. Feeling confident leads to feeling sexy when you’re with the opposite sex. When I began learning how to make a girl come consistently, I quickly realized how important relaxation is to the process. How to make a girl come: arousal It may seem obvious, but if you want to know how to make a girl come, you need to know how to turn a girl on. I do this the same way I relax a woman – with my body and my words. Turning a girl on begins with how you look at her. Girls always tell me that I look at them in a way that makes them nervous but turned on at the…

How To Turn A Girl On

If you know how to turn a girl on, you can sleep with her, and make her your girlfriend if you want. It doesn’t matter how hot she is. Most women have the same emotional and physical needs. When you indicate that you can satisfy those needs to a woman, she will want to spend time with you and be intimate with you.   So what do women want from men? Fundamentally, a woman wants to feel desired by a man. Other factors like financial success, good looks, and a sense of humor can help, but only if there is a foundation of sexual chemistry first.   Some men know how to create sexual chemistry consistently with women, but they usually do it intuitively and can’t articulate exactly what the process is (or they just don’t want to share).   If you don’t know how to turn a girl on, nothing you have or do will make a difference. She won’t sleep with you.   If you constantly get “friend zoned” by girls, while they choose other guys, then you don’t know how to turn a girl on. Because of this, your conversations with beautiful women will feel boring and dry.   Most guys get nervous around beautiful women. This is normal. But if you get so nervous that you can’t think clearly, or make a move when the time is right, you will end up losing the girl to another guy. I guarantee there have been MANY women who would have slept with you, but you missed out because you never made a move.   In fact, I’d venture to say that most men COULD have tens times as many women than they do.   Girls know how to turn guys on, but most guys don’t know to turn a girl on. Guys will pretend to be confident, try to be funny, brag, or be “smooth” in the hoping to turn a girl on. As men, we intuitively know that it’s your personality, your mind, that attracts or repels a woman. But a woman can tell if you are trying to impress her, or you are faking your personality to appear smarter/cooler/funnier than you actually are.   This is how most men try to turn girls on, but ironically, this is the WORST thing you can do, because it tells her that you are BAD IN BED. Female sexuality is totally misunderstood. Women are surprisingly simple (and horny). The reason why most guys don’t know how to turn a girl on is because they don’t understand women.   The first order of business to learning how to turn a girl on is to fix your beliefs about women. Think about what you want to do to a beautiful woman. You want to touch her, fuck her, watch and feel her suck your dick. That’s GOOD. She wants to do that stuff too. You must believe this. Read Nancy Friday’s “My Secret Garden” and “The Hite Report,” to internalize women’s…

Tips To Pick Up Women

As a professional dating coach for men, I’m sometimes referred to as a pick up artist. I thought of myself this way for a long time when I got started learning how to be good with women. I don’t think this accurately depicts who I am or what I do now. In my personal life, I’m simply a man who loves women, and understands them much better than the typical guy. Professionally, I’m a dating coach for men. I teach men how to be successful meeting women and living the kind of lifestyle they want. I also teach guys how to be good in bed, how to have great dates, and how to connect with women on a very deep level. But a lot of guys who are just learning how to be good with women are starting like I started – as pick up artists. So I thought I’d write up a little article of some of my favorite pickup artist tips. These are tips to get you started – techniques you can use to get success right away and start yourself on a positive feedback loop of success. Tips to pick up women 1. One of the hardest things for guys to do is approach women. Even the toughest guy gets scared when he wants to talk to attractive women. The problem is that he is worried about how to impress women, instead of how to help them impress him! This is a powerful shift in thinking. So when you approach women, you should not be thinking about what to say to make her laugh or make her like you. Instead, tell her something YOU like about HER. And make it specific. Don’t just say, “You’re hot.” Say, “I like your hair! It’s different, but looks great on you.” Or, “I love how you move when you dance. I can’t stop looking at you.” Giving a woman a specific compliment on her beauty is my favorite way to start a conversation, and it’s very effective if done with a warm energy and focused eye contact. 2. Once a guy is past the approach, the next step is conversation. As the man, you will have to carry the conversation at first, because women don’t usually know what to say or do when they are approached. They just become passive and try to keep up if they like you. You’re goal is to change this by giving her the confidence to express herself freely. This is another shift in thinking because conventional wisdom says that as the man it’s your job to be confident. Think about it – what do confident people do? They try to build up those around them. This is your focus when talking to a woman. Instead of bragging, be self-deprecating. Instead of trying to be funny, poke fun at her for her cute quirks. Instead of thinking about how to get sexual, focus on making her feel comfortable with you. This will allow her natural…

How To Be More Dominant

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We all learn about status and dominance by dealing with other kids in school. For girls, it’s passive-aggressive terrorism. For boys, it’s head-on bullying. In grade school, physical genetics win. Who gets picked for teams at recess determines who is “liked” and respected in class, and after school. But after grade school, things change. A new dynamic applies. Being ambitious, and social takes precedence over physique. Women are drawn to the man in charge. But if you focus on being that guy, you won’t be. It sounds confusing at first, but makes perfect sense. Let’s start by substituting substitute “dominance” with the word “leadership,” Focusing on leadership will accelerate your learning process and that’s the whole point of LEAD7 – to speed things up and save your time. Inner experience From the inside looking out, a leader is focused on resolving conflict, first within himself. But that’s the longest, hardest struggle – to change yourself from within. The FASTEST way to solve conflict is by getting help from others. Nothing is accomplished alone, and leaders know this. The way to get help is to first give help. Instead of trying to fix yourself from the inside, look where you can help others, and then take action. Sitting at home reading books only fuels the idea that you have a problem, thus fueling the problem itself. All problems exist only in the mind. It is mind’s, perceiving illusory separation, thus conflict, that start war, perpetuate poverty, fuel hatred, racism, oppression, violence. Inner conflict creates depression, insecurity, fear, and anger. When you ACT (ACT Leadership is the foundation of what I teach), you are DOING love. By doing courage, you inspired others, and bring bring us all closer to freedom. Helping vs. Competing The best way to achieve your vision is to attract help by first offering help. That’s what dominance really means, and why I don’t ever say “dominance.” If you are the guy worrying about who’s the “alpha male” or who is more dominant, you are NOT either. You are just another beta monkey fighting other beta monkeys. Focus on leading others, by helping them see themselves as the Ones they want to be. This means you need vision, like a psychological x-ray vision…we are born with it, then we lose it…gain it back. Vision Connecting with women means leading women into intimacy. It might mean leading women into an open, polygamous sexual relationships. Or it might mean finding that special woman and connecting to her deepest dreams and desires, so she will never let you go. If you want to master this process, I explain everything, from top to bottom, in Sexual Supremacy. External Cues vs. Internal Processes Smiling can be DOMINANT, or SUBMISSIVE. The difference is the “why” behind the smile. When you look happy, people see you as in control of your life. When you are depressed, it looks like life is controlling you. When you laugh at someone’s joke, even though it wasn’t funny, are you…

Dating models

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Most guys put models and actresses on a pedestal, as the pinnacle of achievement when it comes to dating. I have dated enough of these types of women to know that I’d actually prefer to meet normal women – teachers, nurses, etc. But if you are looking for the picturesque type of woman, straight off the cover of Cosmo, then you’ll need to know a couple things. #1 Go where they are In New York, models and actresses tend to hang out in certain areas, and at certain clubs. Find out what clubs and bars are near talent agencies in your town, and start to frequent those places. In NYC, Chelsea is where most of the modeling agencies are. Every time I go to that part of town, I see some really amazing women. Again, my taste is more for the “around the way girl,” but if I were looking for a skinny, 6-foot-tall European looking model chick, I’d go to Chelsea. #2 Don’t be impressed – relate The odds are actually more in your favor, the hotter a girl is. Especially with models and actresses, because of how other men treat them. They are used to men worshipping and fawning all over them, or staring creepily but not saying anything, or being really obnoxious and aggressive. If you can just treat her like a normal person, without the game or bullshit, you will seem really different.  So how do you act normal? Don’t be impressed with her. Be curious about her, and as she talks about herself, relate to her experience. If she talks about the stress of acting, because she has to perform for others, talk about how working in IT can be stressful because everyone expects you to know it all, and as soon as the system has trouble, everyone blames you. (Yes, you can work in IT and date models. I’ve had tons of clients make this their reality.) #3 Focus on her personality and convey standards I recall meeting a famous model at the airport. I told a couple of my friends, and they got really excited, telling me that I “had to sleep with her.” For them it was a trophy. But the more I talked to her, the less I liked her. Soon I decided I didn’t want to spend anymore time with her than I already had. It’s important not to compromise yourself just to sleep with a hot woman. If you have standards, and integrity (you stick to your standards), she will feel it. A lot of times, models are used to men sucking up them and letting them get away with crappy behavior. Not you. If she makes a bad joke, or acts stuck up, make fun of her, subtly challenging her to step up. I call this “appreciation-potential.” You are conveying that you could like her, if she can stop being fake and be real with you. This is POWERFUL, because no man does this with her. #4 Give experiences, not…