Compared to men, women have much more creative and extreme fantasies. This isn’t to say women always want to carry out their fantasies. Quite the opposite, which is what makes fantasy so exciting.

In real life, she may not want to actually be bent over by a faceless man in a crowded stadium, or kneel under a podium and give a blowjob to a powerful man giving a speech to a full auditorium (these are both common fantasies I’ve heard women describe).

But in her mind, a woman is safe to explore these crazy ideas, and it’s this safety, this privacy that allows her to indulge in her fantasies and get really turned on. When you understand HOW she thinks, you will know how to turn a girl on.

This article is not about women’s sexual fantasies. I only bring up fantasy to illustrate how incredibly sexual women are. The secret world inside a woman’s mind is a sexual playground. But on the outside, she must hide this, even to her friends. A woman’s sexuality is something wonderful, but also vulnerable – something sacred she must guard, to some degree, at all times. It truly is a secret garden, and she can’t let anyone come in and carelessly trample all over the flowers.

The garden must be protected for many reasons and that’s my goal for this article – to help male readers understand the dynamics of female sexuality on a deeper level, and in a more holistic way.

As a man, it took me a long time to understand how to turn a girl on. It was really a process of unlearning my cultural conditioning, so I could see the obvious.

If I have unprotected sex, I risk contracting an STD, but even then, a woman has a much higher chance of contraction, because of the physical nature of intercourse – she is being penetrated and ejaculated into. I’m sure you know how sex works, but have you ever thought about how the physical dynamics of intercourse affect how a woman thinks about sex?

Evolutionarily, sex is a risk for a woman. Here is a list of the risks a woman takes sexually. (It’s important to understand that although some of these risks are not as much of an issue today, we are still wired as we were 80-50,00 BC. Our brains have not had time to change to the degree society has. Culture changes fast, but biology evolves slowly. Very slowly. 10,000 years of civilization is a blink compared to millions of years of physical evolution).

Risks associated with sex, for women:

* Pregnancy
* Death at childbirth (mother and child)
* Months of at least some physical handicap, carrying a fetus inside her body
* Several years carrying the responsibility to care for her child
* Contracting an STD
* Physical pain, especially if sex is against her will
* Loss of social reputation
* Emotional pain if she is abandoned after sex
* Deeper emotional pain if she is gets pregnant and is abandoned
Risks for men:

* Contracting an STD
* Potentially breaking a sweat

It’s a wonder women want to have sex at all, but in fact they do – very much so. And this is a subtle but important point – women are still very horny despite all these risks. It doesn’t take a lot to turn a girl on. It just requires understanding.

A woman’s sexuality is so powerful that it overrides all the risks she is taking. But this desire doesn’t negate her fear. Fear and desire coexist in a woman, and this accounts for the often ambiguous and seemingly-illogical way women act when it comes to sex.

And there is an even deeper level of fear associated with sex, beyond the physical and emotional risks. For a woman, sex is surrender. She is giving up control of her body. As her body is surrendered, so is her mind. She is letting go.

I’ve found that the more relaxed a woman is with me, the more she can let go of control and surrender to me, the more pleasure she experiences. The easiest way to turn a girl on is to help her relax with you.

With enough relaxation, sex can seem like a transcendent experience for my woman. She is at the whim of the universe, surrendered, relaxed, in unconscious ecstasy. It’s as if I’ve fucked all thought out of her head and she only FEELS waves of pleasure surging through her body.

In contrast, I am in total control, totally conscious, holding her, pounding her, tasting her, completely focused on how beautiful and feminine she is. I feel turned on by seeing her turned on. My arousal is expressed through my control of her, my penetration of her. The stronger and more passionately I hold her and thrust into her, the more she surrenders and allows her body to be enjoyed and penetrated.

But surrender means letting go of control. Loss of control is the cause of emotional trauma. When a woman is raped, and goes into a deep depression, it’s because she felt helpless. Her sense of ownership of her own body was completely negated. No one was there to protect her.

If someone could take her body away from her once, it could hypothetically happen at any time. This is a terrifying thought. And what most guys don’t know is that sexual trauma is actually the norm in the female experience.

If a woman hasn’t been outright assaulted at some point in her life (which is extremely common), she has at least experienced leering, harassment, and manipulation from men, on a REGULAR, EVEN DAILY BASIS. This is ongoing, low-intensity trauma, but over time has the same effect – often a girl’s sense of self-ownership, of autonomy and free will, diminishes as she grows into a woman.

Compounding this is the emotional pain women commonly experience when they have sex with a guy who then stops calling and cuts off contact. Being abandoned after sex is very, very painful for a woman. As women get older, they take men’s promises with a grain of salt, and get somewhat desensitized to the “hit it and quit it” routine. But for younger women, being abandoned by a guy  after sleeping with him is traumatic and has a powerful impact on her perception of men and sex.

None of what I’ve said is to make you feel guilty. The opposite is true. With this knowledge, you can become a more compassionate, patient, understanding man. That doesn’t mean you’ll be a wuss. Again, the opposite is true. When you are more loving, you become more aggressive and passionate, because you have no guilty intention holding you back!

If you want to know how to turn a girl on, find your unique combination of aggressive passionate sexuality, balanced with a sense of emotional safety and relaxation. This is the magic formula.

Trauma is losing control. For a woman, sexual surrender is giving up control. But both are ultimately the loss of control. So trauma and sex are psychological cousins. Fear and arousal lie on opposite sides of a slippery slope that is a woman’s sexuality. Precarious, vulnerable, exciting and scary…she is on fire. What a thrill to let go, and surrender to a strong man.

When a woman trusts me enough to surrender to me, it is deeply humbling. It is an honor to be given control of another person’s body. She is as autonomous and sovereign as I, her body amazing in it’s function and beauty. And, at least for small window of time, it is mine to enjoy and ravish.

Fuck your woman with all the passion you can muster. Never take sex for granted – it’s a gift from nature, from God. If you’re energy is low, that’s OK. Give what you can at the time. And never take a woman’s body for granted. She has given it to you as you give yours to her.

Give with abandon, enjoy obliviously, and help her do the same. This is how to turn a girl on.

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I don’t think this accurately depicts who I am or what I do now. In my personal life, I’m simply a man who loves women, and understands them much better than the typical guy.

Professionally, I’m a dating coach for men. I teach men how to be successful meeting women and living the kind of lifestyle they want. I also teach guys how to be good in bed, how to have great dates, and how to connect with women on a very deep level.

But a lot of guys who are just learning how to be good with women are starting like I started – as pick up artists. So I thought I’d write up a little article of some of my favorite pickup artist tips. These are tips to get you started – techniques you can use to get success right away and start yourself on a positive feedback loop of success.

Tips to pick up women

1. One of the hardest things for guys to do is approach women. Even the toughest guy gets scared when he wants to talk to attractive women. The problem is that he is worried about how to impress women, instead of how to help them impress him! This is a powerful shift in thinking. So when you approach women, you should not be thinking about what to say to make her laugh or make her like you.

Instead, tell her something YOU like about HER. And make it specific. Don’t just say, “You’re hot.” Say, “I like your hair! It’s different, but looks great on you.” Or, “I love how you move when you dance. I can’t stop looking at you.” Giving a woman a specific compliment on her beauty is my favorite way to start a conversation, and it’s very effective if done with a warm energy and focused eye contact.

2. Once a guy is past the approach, the next step is conversation. As the man, you will have to carry the conversation at first, because women don’t usually know what to say or do when they are approached. They just become passive and try to keep up if they like you. You’re goal is to change this by giving her the confidence to express herself freely. This is another shift in thinking because conventional wisdom says that as the man it’s your job to be confident.

Think about it – what do confident people do? They try to build up those around them. This is your focus when talking to a woman. Instead of bragging, be self-deprecating. Instead of trying to be funny, poke fun at her for her cute quirks. Instead of thinking about how to get sexual, focus on making her feel comfortable with you. This will allow her natural sexuality to emerge, because she feels safe expressing that side of herself to you.

3. When you take a girl back to your place (or hers), go slow, but don’t hesitate. This is a subtle balance, between rushing and waiting. A woman can tell when you are rushing and desperate for sex, but she can also tell when you are too scared to make a move. Women also like it when a guy takes his time and savors the moments leading up to sex. I’ve noticed that if I move and talk slow, but still make my move, I rarely get resistance.

Guys are always worried about how to get a girl to have sex. The way I see it, if she’s comfortable, and turned-on, she will WANT to have sex. Going slow without being timid achieves this. Once you are finally naked together, make sure you last at least 15 minutes and give her a good variety of experience – go hard and deep, fast and shallow, slow it down, and speed it up. If you just do what you feel, she’ll feel YOU, and that’s what a woman wants – to feel a man fully.

More tips to pick up women – specific techniques to use when approaching women

4. If you see a woman pass on the street, let her pass, then turn around and catch up to her. Flank around her and approach from her 10 o’clock or 2 o’clock position. Look into her eyes, slow to a stop, forcing her to stop, and tell her how beautiful you think she is. Ask her name, and go from there.

If you want to approach a a woman in a grocery store, try this one: “Wow, a beautiful woman who cooks! I like you already.” In a retail store, get her opinion on something you are thinking about buying. When she tells you, say “Hmm a cute girl with good taste. What’s your name?”

If you want to pick up a woman in a bar talking with her friends, go up and say, “Excuse me, I don’t mean to interrupt, but I gotta say you look great. I noticed you right away and had to come over. I’m (your name).”

If you want to approach a girl at a party, keep it light and casual. Tell her you like her outfit, and then ask her if she knows the host.

If you want to start a conversation with a girl in a coffee shop, ask her if she is working on school stuff or work stuff. Most people in coffee shops go there to get some caffeine and focus on something. Just ask what they are up to, and then talk about yourself before you ask another question. This prevents you from looking nosey, and is an easy way to get an interesting conversation going.

5. My last pick up artist tip is about how to get a girl’s number. The easiest way to do this is to simply have a good conversation and tell her you want to see her again. Then say, “What’s your number? I’ll call your phone so you have mine too.” This is my standard. But sometimes you need to get a girl’s number fast, like when you meet her on the street. In this case, say “Hey we both gotta be on our way. You are cute and seem cool. How about we exchange numbers and see what happens.” This usually works for me, but to be honest, if you haven’t made any sort of connection, a woman probably won’t give her number out. You should still try though.

I hope these tips to pick up women lead to you living your ideal sex life.

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We are always communicating to each other with our bodies. Our thoughts and feelings are telegraphed through facial expression, posture, movement, and many other aspects of body language. To be good with women is to be good at flirting.

Because so much of our communication is outside of words – what we say with our bodies – flirting is as much about what you say with your body as with your words, if not more. In this article, I’m going to break down body language, and more specifically flirting body language.

Flirting body language

By Brian Burke

The best flirts are men and women who understand that much of what is communicated happens physically. Let me point out some areas of body language so that you may become more aware of your own body language. This is important because when you are aware of your body, you can then use it consciously to send the messages you want to send to others. This awareness is crucial for effective flirting body language.

Facial expressions

Imagine saying something neutral to another person, for example, “I ate a sandwich today.”

If you say this with a smile, the person gets the message that the sandwich was good, even though you have not said that verbally yet. Alternatively, you could say it with a frown, and the person infers that the sandwich was bad

Facial expression adds context to your words. Taking this idea a step further, imagine giving someone a compliment, with a smile. They will be pleased. But say it with a frown, and you send the message that you don’t mean the compliment – maybe you are being sarcastic, and actually criticizing the person. They will respond much differently.

There is a wide range of possible expressions between a smile and a frown. We are capable of literally thousands of subtly different facial expressions, and we are also WIRED to perceive these subtle differences. Could you be sending the wrong message when you talk to girls?

Remember, flirting body language starts with the look on your face.

Movement – pace, and space

You probably now realize that body language is a subtle business. Moreso with body movement. For example, if you are moving fast, it could convey that you are nervous, or simply energized and excited.

If you move slow, it could mean you are depressed. It could also mean that you are feeling confident and relaxed. What’s the difference? Your facial expression.

Another part of movement is how much space you occupy. If you sit with your arms and legs spread, as if you own the place, you look confident. But fidgety (fast) hand movements, and a subtley nervous facial expression will give you away as trying to assert confidence to cover up insecurity.

Are you seeing how subtle and complex all this is? Don’t worry, I’ll make it simple later, because you do NOT want to be thinking about all these things when you talk to women. In fact, the less you think, the more relaxed and confident you appear, and this is the foundation of flirting body language.

Posture and positioning

I’m sure you know that having an upright posture sends good messages. But keep in mind that all of these piecse of body language exist in-context. I’ve found that there are times when slumping, leaning, and having your head down are appropriate, and even effective at communicating confidence.

Another part of body language that is extremely subtle is how you position yourself in a room. Men who feel more dominant than other men tend to naturally stand in the center of attention, or at an important vertex in a room. My friend Darren always did this. He would walk into a room, speak to everyone in a calm but loud tone, and occupy the area of the room that was the center of focus.

Obviously, when you stand or sit off to the side, you tell people that you do not feel like you belong or are worth getting attention. This is a low-status cue. An obvious example is when the shy kids in class sat at the back so as not to get called on or noticed.

Flirting body language requires that you don’t hide yourself from others, but also that you don’t fake and try to LOOK confident, because in actuality you will just look insecure to women.

Tonality

Tonality is usually aligned with facial expression. When it’s not, the effect is actually very off-putting, even scary. Let’s look at the two basic facial expressions – a smile, and a frown. Now imagine smiling but using an angry tonality, while saying “Hi, how are you?” Scary shit!

Now imagine frowning, but using a happy tonality with a frown, and saying this. Eww…nasty! Sarcasm at it’s worst. This will likely make the other person mad, whereas the first example will make them think you want to kill them.

Try to align your tonality with your facial expression. Flirting body language requires many different tonalities, but at any given time, what you say on your face is what you send with your voice tone.

The biggest part of Flirting body language is how you touch a woman

Touch

Touch what you do with your hands to communicate what you are thinking in regards to the other person. Touch is a huge part of my interactions with women, and I have a whole teaching system to make students masters of touch. For no, just remember that you want your touch – and part of your body language – aligned so that you are sending one, strong, clear message at a time.

Obviously, if you can touch a woman in a way that makes her feel good, she will begin thinking about you in a sexual way, so this is something you definitely want to get handled if you want to improve your flirting body language.

Flirting body language, made simple

I’m going to introduce a concept that will become part of your vocabulary as you read more of my stuff.

Messaging

Remember I said that you want to send one strong, clear message at a time. Think about what kind of message you should send when it comes to flirting body language. If you are talking to a mechanic about an estimate for your car repairs, you should send a message that you are not stupid and that you will not simply agree to whatever number he throws at you. Condensing this into a simple message, you should be saying with your body, “I’m not here to play games,” or “Don’t try to lie to me.”

When you are flirting with a woman, a great message to send is, “Hmm…you have potential, but I’m not sure about you.” As you send this message, ask her questions, tease her, and genuinely appreciate her when she expresses herself authentically.

You can still send this message when you talk about yourself, so that you are basically challenging her to see if she can hang with you.

Flirting is about screening, but often guys are ready to sleep with a woman just because she looks good. They don’t challenge her to find out if there’s more beneath the surface.

When a woman sees that you are screening her, she instantly respects you, which turns her on and motivates her to talk to you more. The way to convey screening? By sending a message: flirting body language says, “I’m not sure about you yet. Show me more.”

Flirting Body Language is a post from: Go Beyond Dating

#1 Go where they are
In New York, models and actresses tend to hang out in certain areas, and at certain clubs. Find out what clubs and bars are near talent agencies in your town, and start to frequent those places. In NYC, Chelsea is where most of the modeling agencies are. Every time I go to that part of town, I see some really amazing women. Again, my taste is more for the “around the way girl,” but if I were looking for a skinny, 6-foot-tall European looking model chick, I’d go to Chelsea.

#2 Don’t be impressed – relate
The odds are actually more in your favor, the hotter a girl is. Especially with models and actresses, because of how other men treat them. They are used to men worshipping and fawning all over them, or staring creepily but not saying anything, or being really obnoxious and aggressive. If you can just treat her like a normal person, without the game or bullshit, you will seem really different. So how do you act normal? Don’t be impressed with her. Be curious about her, and as she talks about herself, relate to her experience. If she talks about the stress of acting, because she has to perform for others, talk about how working in IT can be stressful because everyone expects you to know it all, and as soon as the system has trouble, everyone blames you. (Yes, you can work in IT and date models. I’ve had tons of clients make this their reality.)

#3 Focus on her personality and convey standards
I recall meeting a famous model at the airport. I told a couple of my friends, and they got really excited, telling me that I “had to sleep with her.” For them it was a trophy. But the more I talked to her, the less I liked her. Soon I decided I didn’t want to spend anymore time with her than I already had. It’s important not to compromise yourself just to sleep with a hot woman. If you have standards, and integrity (you stick to your standards), she will feel it.

A lot of times, models are used to men sucking up them and letting them get away with crappy behavior. Not you. If she makes a bad joke, or acts stuck up, make fun of her, subtly challenging her to step up. I call this “appreciation-potential.” You are conveying that you could like her, if she can stop being fake and be real with you. This is POWERFUL, because no man does this with her.

#4 Give experiences, not money
Do not try to take her to an expensive restaurant or plan some elaborate date, just because she’s hot and in show-business. Instead, take her to a greasy spoon with great cheap food, a cool dive bar with pool tables, and a nice walk along the river or lake. Give her a relaxed, varied experience, as you and she get to know eachother.

Commit this to memory: she’ll be impressed by the fact that you’re not trying to impress her. What she really wants is an authentic connection with a normal man.

When guys talk about dating models, I think what they mean is that they want to meet the hottest women, the elite, the women that intimidate all the men.

I’ve dated many women who ran in showbiz circles meeting athletes and musicians and stuff.

They all say that these guys tend to be cocky and stupid and have unattractive personalities. I’m sure not all but I bet even these guys have the pedestal mentality – seeing beauty as power a woman has over them rather than something to appreciate and encourage.

Cockiness is one way to mask insecurity. Avoiding women altogether is another. As is jealousy – that’s another one.

Exceptionally beautiful women tell me that their exes were extremely jealous and they just got sick of it. This was me with that girl I mentioned in question

Also, these women have guy “friends” that are secretly in love with them, but afraid to do something about it, or have already played themselves and are “like her little brother.”
So we have crazy guys saying rude or weird things, we have drunk guys who need liquid courage, we have cocky rich assholes, and we have guys pretending to be her friend because they are in love with her.

And everyone else just stares and creeps her out.

NO WONDER beautiful women walk around with a pissed off look on their faces!

Bottom line, many of the most attractive women have done some modeling.

BUT, models aren’t the hottest women.

Models are extremely insecure and often crazy or just flat-out weird because of their experience with men… AND women.

Models are actually very easy – as long as you don’t seek her approval, hide your sexuality, or focus too much on her body, you will be fine. Beyond that, it’s really a matter of getting your lifestyle together, and then taking action when you see beautiful women.

Dating Models is a post from: Go Beyond Dating

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Sure, women dishonor our screen, the screen of God, by putting on makeup. But that’s them. YOURE the leader. What are you doing? Don’t stoop to them.

PUA methods think they are outside the box, but they are more in the box than society – they completely buy the social values that oppress all of us. While some people live their lives in conflict, struggling to reconcile their primal and spiritual, pua’s work very hard to PROACTIVELY perpetuate and magnify society’s view of men and women

disrespect – someone tries to trick you into liking jazz but you already like jazz

dishonor/demeaning – to honor a human being – an adult, functioning human, you must honor their sexuality. Society doesn’t do this. Other places are better – europe for example, where people are more happy, relaxed, healthy, and sexually active. hmmm…PUA’s base entire methods on the premise that women aren’t already horny. and when a woman IS horny, it’s not appreciated. It’s an opportunity to “close” so you can post an lr. Even recently the podcasts i did with Jon reeked of this attitude. We were in vegas getting notches. I ended up meeting a great girl and slowed way down the last couple months I was there, and it had been a while since I cared deeply for a woman. And after such a long time of getting laid non stop from new girls, I was reminded of what I had stopped seeing. That women want to love you. Women are WITH you, if you create that dynamic by leading.

example: a mehtod that tricks women into thinking you are a leader, preventing you from becoming an actually leader. Society likes sheeple. So society wins.
example: a mehtod that relies on scripts, undermining a woman’s ability to think and screen based on AUTHENTICITY. Society like us to lie to each other,because if we all

Men and women are on teh same side. Society wants to keep us apart, and so do pua’s: targets, lmr, sets/routines/scripts, patterns, vin’s stuff – underground dirty tricks that should be illegal.

For a weak, “taking” man, women become your enemies ifyou are trying to get in their pants without giving them the emotions they need, the leadership they crave. I think women SENSE what a man COULD be, and they despise him for not stepping up. Like you’d despise a nature guide who didn’t know where he was going, and now here we are in th emiddle fo the fucking jungle.

unnecessary – linear models with required steps, rather than AWARENESS. Soporno is a great example. He uses awareness as his whole method. He finds women who are ovulating, and then communicates with them on an unspoken level, becuae he knows she can’t overtly agree to sex – again, awareness. My guess is he’s spent a ton of time with women who were very sexual, and has had lots of conversations and “tutoring” by other women. He sees things other men don’t – awareness. I’m a huge fan of soporno. Zan too. He exudes that passion. His ability to structure things so he can teach is questionable, but he clearly lives what he preaches because it works. Passion works better than any routine. Passion for life turns women on – makes her want that passion directed at her. When you DO, she’s turned on even more. Women get turned on by you being turned on – for life, and for them.

Dating coach for men: teaching a system vs. system of teaching

You’ve probably figured out that I’m a dating coach for men – one of many. The dating coach/pick up artist industry has become pretty saturated. As a dating coach for men, I can tell who’s for real and who’s fake, based on what they say, write, and how they carry themselves in person and on video. I can smell bullshit because I have a ton of experience in this field.

If a guy has some complex method that violates female psychology, or sounds way more impressive than anything I’ve seen, then I know it’s probably a lie, which means he is a liar, and thus we can apply bullshit to everything he says.

But let’s take the handful of dating coaches for men who are for real. I’m talking about guys whose articles I actually read, guys who are really out there meeting women and are able to break down what’s going on.

Even most of those guys are lacking in one major way: they may have great systems for picking up women, but they don’t have good systems for teaching it.

If you can pick up girls, great. A lot of guys can do that. But that’s not really what you get paid for. A dating coach for men gets paid to teach it. Being good with women is just a prerequisite, not the job.

WHen you step back and think about it, it’s astonishing that a dating coach for men would simply have his own system that he teaches, but not have an organized structure for delivering the information to his student.

The learning process itself is something I’m fascinated with. I have considerable skill in a small handful of areas, and I attribute this skill to my ability to learn. I have structures that I use for myself when I want to learn something. The first ingredient is always passion. But there are other things I can do to internalize new information.

As I developed as a dating coach for men, one of my passions emerged – learning itself, or should I say teaching. I recall as an intern with Vin Dicarlo that I’d find myself standing in the mirror giving a presentation to an imaginary audience. This is actually one method of learning – to teach what you know so the concepts become connected and solidified in your mind.

At the time I didn’t realize it, but I have a natural inclination towards presenting, persuading, speaking, and teaching. I enjoy teaching so much that one of my hobbies is to volunteer with young children to help them with school work or reading skills or whatever is needed. Seeing someone else master a skill is extremely rewarding, as making a great meal is rewarding to someone who loves to cook.

I have another natural inclination (and I am not trying to make myself sound great here – I have a huge list of faults. I have become aware of my small set of talents as I’ve gotten older). I like to create structures and systems out of whatever I’m interested in. This is another tool in learning something – make an organized structure out of it: the structure can be an outline, a metaphor, a list, etc. For some reason, I’m obsessed with organizing information.

This makes me a natural teacher, and I’m grateful that I was able to discover this in myself while working for Vin. The first time I was in front of a room full of students explaining how women think, I felt right at home. I don’t think I would have figured this out if Vin had not thrown me into the fire and believed in me.

When people ask me what I do and I say “I’m a dating coach for men” I sometimes get strange reactions. The two most common are disbelief or fascination. But to me it makes perfect sense. I like to teach, I’m hopelessly girl-crazy, and I am good at creating conceptual systems.

My passion no longer figuring women out. I know enough to have great abundance in that arena. What I’m really fascinated about is teaching effectively. I’d like to get a phd in a field relating to accelerated learning and teaching. The mind is so exciting to me. I wonder what other things I could learn, and then teach. I love being a dating coach for men because it’s given me great insight into how to teach more effectively. The ALT6 system I’ve developed over the past 6 years is a culmination of all my experiences, notes, reading, and reflecting. It’s like a sculpture I’ve spent years creating and I’m very proud of it. I guess that makes me kind of a nerd – I’m proud of a conceptual framework. Hang that on your wall! But seriously, I wonder, what other skills I could apply it to. I’m by nature very curious, and I know that at some point in the near future I will take my passion for learning into other fields.

I truly believe in what I do as a dating coach for men, and even though I have competitors in this business, I think it’s great that other guys provide this service too. I think it’s a noble cause because it benefits women as well. It also leads to more positive, loving connections between men and women, so when children enter the picture, they benefit too. I’d like to see more guys who call themselves a dating coach for men be just as passionate about teaching as they are about their own dating lives!

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