Approaching (Part II)
The key to successfully approaching a woman is sending a message of love, showing appreciation and gratitude for, if nothing else, her femininity. Basically just thanking a girl for brightening up your day. A woman’s beauty is a good enough reason to talk to her. In fact it’s the BEST reason, a perfect reason. It’s why we are here – to come together and connect. I believe the most important connection is the sexual one, because it creates new life. It’s a microcosm of the cosmic dance of Yin and Yang.
If this makes you uncomfortable, try telling a few women, “Wow, you’re so beautiful!” And then walk off. This will habituate giving love without worrying about the outcome. There are so many women out there, don’t worry if you never see them again. What you might find is the more love you show to the feminine, the more She appears in your life, in her infinite and beautiful forms.
Next time She appears, approach her with courage.
Your inner dialogue is going to say well she’s out of our league. But it doesn’t matter, I’m going to be courageous right now.
This will also help you recognize and be honest with yourself about that nasty physical fear that you have. It’s a physical feeling and you need to acknowledge that.
Face it and say to yourself “i’m not going to let it stop me. I’m going to act.”
You’re taking control of your fear.
Then take another day and approach women with a specific intention of learning how to deal with that specific type of woman.
That was a big challenge for me being in New York. A lot of the hottest women were Hispanic women and you could tell that they were a little ghetto. I still wanted ‘em. So I had to learn how to deal with that.
What you’ll find is that it’s really just about being yourself and being relaxed. Because what women are screening for is leadership and that really comes down to self-leadership. The way that looks is you’re just relaxed and comfortable with yourself.
Even if she doesn’t understand something you say, it’s okay.
