Approach Thinking About You
Any thought of what she thinks of you is just not good. You should be thinking about what you think of her. This is why you just cannot see a woman and immediately start looking for reasons why you shouldn’t approach her, why it won’t work out or why she might not like you.
As soon as you do that, you’ve already lost.
You really have to remind yourself how important this is. If you approach a woman and you have that thought, cut that shit out.
If you really want to change, you have to step up and talk to a beautiful woman that makes you nervous and focus on what you like and dislike about her. You have to do that. it’s just like if you haven’t been to the gym in three weeks, maybe you’ve got one more week until you’re back to where you were a year ago. You have to get in there and do it.
You have to do it. It’s the same thing. It might suck, but do you really want to change? Do you really want to change how you think?
Do this a few times with women that you see and you’ll notice that’s going to make it easier for you. That’s going to make it easier to meet a lot of women, and from a larger pool you can make a better selection.
So if you’re really serious about this and you really want to find a good woman and possibly a good mother for your kids, get fucking serious because this is your life!
Try approaching a woman and just decide that you’re not going to try at all. You’re not going to try to make her like you. You’re not going to try to say or do the right thing. You’re just going to go up and start interacting with her.
That why there’s an “i” in front of iI:PA*CE. You have to decide what you want to do. Do you want to make approaching women a chore and difficult or do you want to make it light and fun and easy? Something that you can do any time and something that you enjoy.
So you need to be having fun in these interactions, you need to be joking around and expressing your stupid corny sense of humor.
Here are some easy openers that you can say that you don’t have to even think about:
- “You look cute today.”
- “I just had to stop and say hi, you’re really beautiful.”
- “Hey how’re you doing today?”
It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t lead to anything. Focus on lowering the mental effort it takes with each woman. It needs to be a sustainable practice.
If I try to go to the gym and every time I wanted to beat my old record so I work really hard and exert myself to the fullest every time I go in, really quick, I’m going to stop showing up completely.
Unless you’re one of those guys that absolutely loves being in the gym, this will happen. What’s really going to keep you going to the gym is just showing up, even on days that you don’t want to, just showing up and doing what you can.
If today’s going to be a soft day so be it, but at least show up. Don’t go backwards.
We’re talking about training here. Trying to get you to a certain point. It’s just like when you go to practice, you’re not doing the things that you’re going to do in a game. You’re focusing on different elements.
You’re focusing on shifting your mindset from worrying if she likes you to having fun. Not allowing yourself to make a lot of effort. Focusing on appreciation first, then using I:PA*CE to drive the conversation.
There’s going to be a point where you don’t really need to think about this stuff anymore. That’s when you’re really going to start to have success; because the less thoughts you’re having when you’re dealing with a woman, the better.
It helps you be more aware of her. You want to be focused on her. That’s when it’s going to get really good. When you have the conversation down and you have the mindset down. At that point you don’t have any unnecessary thoughts and you can just focus totally on her.
