Most guys want to enjoy a variety of women before they settle down. And when they do, they don’ want to, well…settle. Most guys want to find their dream girl, but only after they’ve experienced different women. Otherwise, you will feel that you have “missed out,” and possibly settled…
because you didn’t have know-how to meet the women you REALLY wanted.
These were two of the most common regrets of dying men:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
“I wish I had gone after the hot girl.”
Women are aware of The Game, now. The average guy knows at least SOME pickup artist techniques, and women have become paranoid and wary of “game.”
The good news is, game is the hardest, least efficient way to sleep with hot women fast. The easiest way is without tricks or manipulation. But I don’t mean to say, “Just be yourself.” I’ll explain, but first I must break down the game-seduction paradigm, so you can see how you’ve been blinded and misguided.
Running game, or pickup, is based on seduction, which itself is based on courtship, an archaic medievel tradition where talented commoners come to the noble court, and try to woo or “seduce” female members of the nobility.
Let’s look at what “seduce” actually means.
“se·duce: To lead away from duty, accepted principles, or proper conduct.”
When you approach an attractive woman, you aren’t wooing an unmarried princess, trying to entice her to violate her vow of chastity before she is politically betrothed to some rich, land-owning Duke.
You aren’t leading her away from principles or proper conduct. You aren’t doing anything bad, although as men, we are brainwashed into thinking that women don’t like sex as much as we, and that if a woman has sex, she is “bad” or “slutty.” So when a man wants to sleep with a woman, he senses he is trying to get her to do something she shouldn’t do… And yet he wants her to do it… So he feels guilty… And tries harder.
Society teaches men to think this way, and so women have to adapt by hiding their sexuality. But when a woman meets a man who is comfortable with his sexual desire, and has sexual confidence, and knows how to make it happen, while allowing her to keep her true nature a secret, she will open up to him and reveal her wild, primal, passionate nature.
To do this, do you need to “seduce” her? No! Because you’re not doing anything wrong. You are a regular guy with normal desires, and yet, you are told that you need to run game to get what you want.
This isn’t medieval Venice, you’re not Casanova. And you don’t have to be. Women don’t want a seducer. Women want a solid guy understands women and can take the lead towards the bedroom, while having fun and making a real connection.
The cool thing is, if you can meet a lot of women, without lying or running “game,” many will JUMP in bed with you. Why? Because…WOMEN LOVE SEX!
Ironically, as men hide their sexual intentions, or try to PRESSURE women to have sex (flip sides of the same dirty coin), they actually make women LESS horny. And, believe me, good sex is the primary motivator for a woman wanting to date you. So what makes sex “good” for women?
What makes you good at connecting conversationally, also makes you good in bed. I call it Thrust, which is the ‘T’ in my ACT Leadership System. There’s no extra techniques to remember. At every step, you know exactly how to focus, in a way that turns women on and leads to great sex and a great connection.
It’s easier, and more effective to focus on Leadership – Sexual Leadership – with women. Not only does my ACT Leadership System make you unstoppable in any situation, it creates POWERFUL bonds with the HOTTEST women, based on authenticity and mutual benefit. And you’ll be shocked when you realize that the most attractive, in-demand women are actually the easiest, if you use this system.
The best thing is that it’s designed to work best with the most beautiful women because they are exposed to the most “game,” being run by the smoothest players. The competition is fierce, and it’s a lot of work to compete. The funny thing is, she can see through it all (most of the time).
Coaching is all about saving you time and pain. It can take YEARS of dedicated effort, and lots of embarrassing trial and error to figure this out. I make up for lost time, and shoot you into the future – YOUR future.
Think of me as a personal trainer for your sex and love life. In sports, you need a coach to help you reach your potential. It’s the same in any profession or craft.
You get a trainer when you want elite results as fast as possible. The trainer has experience, walks the talk, and sees things you don’t. The expert demonstrates it, and trains you to do it.
You can probably imagine how far-reaching the implications are for this sort of training. When you hire a trainer for something as important as this, what you are really doing is investing in yourself, in your own happiness.
One amazing side-effect of coaching is that you become better with ALL the people in your life. More respect and support from coworkers. Your boss sees your leadership ability gives you a raise and a promotion. You get along better with your friends and family.
Networking is a breeze, not a chore. You might even make some awesome new guy friends who are like-minded about being better men! These are all common results.
But most importantly, this is the fastest, surest way to find your Perfect Woman.
And when you find her, you don’t have to ever worry about losing her to another man. You’ll have the wisdom and skill to maintain a healthy, loving, passionate relationship with a wonderful woman, because the ACT Leadership System I teach covers EVERYTHING.
It’s complete. It’s not just about meeting women, it’s about connecting with women, and EVERYONE. Every connection you make is unique and alive, and never stops growing, as you and your woman grow, together.
Just like DNA, a handful of pieces make up infinite variations. Each relationship has it’s unique DNA. And when that combination just seems to work…well, that’s CHEMISTRY.
If you are thinking about taking your life to the next level, check out LEAD7 Live Coaching.
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I bet you’re the type of man who takes charge of his career, of his health, of his LIFE. And what part of life is more important than your relationships with women?
You wouldn’t rely on fate or luck to feed yourself every day, and you wouldn’t leave your career up to chance, then why would you trust in luck to find the girl of your dreams?
You CAN operate at an elite level with women. You might even know a guy who doesn’t rank very high on the looks or wealth scale, but seems to have a magic way with women. Guess what…he’s using the exact same system, only he can’t articulate it, let alone teach it, because it’s just “how he is” – it’s natural, organic, unconscious.
The kind of guy that hires a personal trainer – or coach – to improve his golf game, or attends seminars to improve his sales skills, iss a guy that isn’t satisfied with average. These are the kind of people I like to surround myself with, and this is the kind of student I tend to attract.
Most of my students are very successful men. And most of my students have already had a fair amount of success in their dating lives. Guys that come to me want to be excellent in the most important parts of their lives, so when they hire a coach, they expect excellence.
There are three things a dating coach for men should be able to do:
1. Demonstrate results, and
2. Teach a system for others to get the same results
The third thing is rarely, if ever mentioned. You must have a method for teaching if you want to be a dating coach for men. In other words, you don’t just teach a system, you have a system of teaching.
When I first began as a dating coach for men, I was teaching specific techniques to my students. And then I read this quote:
“As to methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.”– Ralph Waldo Emerson
My approach to teaching changed. I came up with a template-based structure in my exercises. I allowed space for individuality and improvisation. I used structures that forced each student to express himself authentically.
These exercises evolved into the ground-breaking mental GPS technology I call ACT Leadership. It’s a system I can “upload” into your mind, PERMANENTLY.
Once you download ACT into your mind, you’ll immediately throw out all your self-help products, dismiss all the dating advice (which is actually holding you back anyway), and stop worrying about getting laid. Just throw on a t-shirt and go to an area where attractive women shop, and get a couple new girlfriends. It can be that simple and easy…
In fact, doesn’t it feel WRONG that it ISN’T that easy? Doesn’t dating feel like WORK most of the time? Why is approaching so scary and why do you draw a blank when you talk to beautiful women?
If so, you’re not alone. Most guys are BAD with women, in the sense that they have almost ZERO control over which women they meet, and when they meet them. Most men cannot approach competently, and most men have to wait for sex, while spending a bunch of time and money.
So the learning process should be FAST, EASY, and FUN. And remember, when we are talking about being good with women, we are not talking about seduction, game, pickup, or attraction. No, we are talking about LEADERSHIP.
Leadership is all about how you think. As you notice her body, she notices your mind. You are looking for a pretty face and nice figure, but she’s looking for leadership.
And just like a woman can’t convince a man she is pretty if he doesn’t see her that way, you can’t convince a woman that you are attractive, cool, “alpha,” witty, or a leader.
Thrust is thinking like a leader, by leading yourself. Your example garners respect, a sense of safety, and an anticipation of reward in others if they come with you on your journey. Cultivating your Thrust naturally makes you someone that is respectable, safe, and a bringer of pleasure. This is the side of leadership that entices a woman to be with you.
She doesn’t want the “right words,” the “right moves,” or the “right looks.” She wants YOUR unique flavor of masculinity – YOUR Thrust. In fact, it’s your very attempt to “do it right” that is making you just like every other guy, turning women off in the process.
But just as you like to see beautiful women and feel aroused, a woman wants to meet a man who excites her. And the fastest way to be that man is to hire a dating coach for men. If you’d like to learn more, check out the LEAD7 Coaching Program.
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As I developed the Pandora’s Box system with Vin Dicarlo, my goal was to answer one question: how do women think about dating and sex?
The idea that women are illogical has never sat well with me. After two years of devouring every source of information I could.
I devoured academic research, piles of books on gender, personality, and female psychology, and I talked to every woman I personally knew. I also picked other that had a “way with women.”
I began synthesizing a personality inventory, based on the ways women navigate the dating (mating) process on a cognitive level. But the key was to focus on the cognitive processes that are different from how men think.
I found there were three considerations women have about dating that men do not:
1. Women have a time window, and must use a strategy to find the best mate in that window.
2. Women are ambivalent about sex, because their desires are coupled with fears that men don’t have.
3. Women want to feel they are contributing to their man’s life in a supportive way. But how they nurture a man varies based on their perception of a woman’s role in a romantic relationship.
Each factor has two polarities, like the DSMMD. A woman’s cognitive dating map develops according to the 8 possible preferences for finding a man. This means that each factor is a line, with a contrasting strategy at each end.
Three lines, or axes, makes a cube…in other words, a box!
I thought about the myth of Pandora’s Box. A woman opens a box that releases all the chaos and evil previously contained and controlled within a mythical box. This is like the Adam and Eve story, where Eve succumbs to temptation and brings evil into the Garden of Eden.
I felt these myths were biased, and unfairly painted women as evil or bad. Women are not, though it may serve the male ego to believe this. I wanted to counter these myths with a modern, compassionate view of women, giving men a healthier way of dealing with the opposite sex.
So Vin Dicarlo and I set out to create a new Pandora’s Box.
As a dating coach for men, my job is to create easily navigable systems. This particular system was based on eight types of women (3 lines, multiplied by 2 possible preferences-polarities, equals eight types).
This was an exciting project. I wrote tons of articles and Advanced Strategy Guides explaining the Pandora’s Box system and how to understand the eight types of women. But more importantly, how to explore each individual woman’s mind using the most accurate system at that time.
I also got to interview some really great women on camera and illustrate to my students how to explore a woman’s mind using the Pandora’s Box system. Some of my favorite interviews were actually off-camera, on the phone. I had to keep these interviews discrete, as they were focused on sex and got pretty candid and explicit.
There was a side-effect to all this research. Me and the rest of the Vin DiCarlo Coaching team all naturally became even better with women, simply because we all understood them on such a deep level. I no longer had to think about what to say or where I stood in a woman’s eyes. We now felt, on an intuitive level, what a woman was probably thinking and feeling.
This allowed me and the rest of the Dicarlo Coaching team to connect with women on a much deeper level, completely effortlessly.
We were no longer pickup artists, consciously running game. We became Naturals, easily and organically connecting with the deepest part of the women we met.
I also developed a deeper love for women, and saw them, not as conquests or opponents to “seduce,” but unique, individual human beings. Once my perception shifted, my results got better, with less effort. In fact, “effort” isn’t the right word. Interactions became fun, easy, and more fulfilling.
Although Vin Dicarlo no longer offers personal coaching, I still do. I’ve been a professional dating coach for men for 8 years, and I am still passionate about helping men achieve dating success with women.
If you want to learn how to apply the Pandora’s Box system with women at a master level as fast as possible, check out my LEAD7 Coaching Program.
To your success,
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